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June 5, 2009 - Posted by deimos | Random-dome! | Deimos

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is anyone else besides me totally obsessed with so you think you can dance?

Comment by stopthemadness | June 5, 2009 | Reply
Not me, but I am wicked sunburnt from my HONEYMOON! For once, this PETA Protector won’t be a cynical bitch. ❤

Comment by Chelsea - PETA Protector | June 5, 2009 | Reply
huzzah! does this mean i can wear fur now?

🙂

Comment by stopthemadness | June 5, 2009 | Reply
Ha! Until the honeymoon bliss wears off–then I’ll chitchat about the anal electrocution of bunnehs.

Actually no, like 3 of my co-workers have fur coats. So long as I ain’t wearin it, whatevs yo.

Comment by Chelsea - PETA Protector | June 5, 2009 | Reply
Clients are stupid.

Comment by WhoMee | June 5, 2009 | Reply
aw chelsea, that’s so sweet – welcome back from your honeymoon yay!

my update is that i have discovered the inner peace that comes from being able to record television and watch it whenever i want. i was so resistant but i am currently on tonight’s 2nd recorded episode of frasier (don’t judge me) and it’s like i made a new friend, but this friend entertains me any damn time i want. i can have sitcoms on the weekends!

when i am incredibly wealthy i am going to get one of these things and use it for my own whims and desires.

Comment by baby fish mouth | June 5, 2009 | Reply
stm i love so you think you can dance! now is the good part too, i was getting bored with the craptacular dance auditions.

in accordance with randomness, i just love fancy lotions and soaps. more specifically, body butters and shower creams. and really the fancier the better, and there’s so many to choose from! sephora is like fancy crap mecca! love it!

ohhh conans on… gotta go

Comment by lava | June 5, 2009 | Reply
So…speaking of Bill Murray (well McG is, so that’s close enough), I just imdb’d him, and Ghostbusters III is announced for 2012. It’s been rumored for so damn long, and I’ve heard hints and talks, but apparently it’s official since it’s on imdb (don’t question my sources!). Major Squee! for me. Murray was my first celebrity crush (don’t question my sources or judge me!)

Also, my laptop is in my lap–go figure why they named it that–and I’m too lazy to reach to the coffeetable to set my beer down, so it’s currently being held steady in my mouth. Dental work be damned! I have a pilsner that needs to be balanced!

Also, in case it wasn’t obvious, I’m drunk. Good day.

Comment by Chelsea - PETA Protector | June 5, 2009 | Reply
I’ve been fighting a nasty sinus infection for almost 2 weeks now. I feel like I smoked a pound of weed and chased it with some other sort of downer. Normally I would welcome such a feeling but on top of the intense pain in my face region it is very unenjoyable. I’ve been considering cutting my face off. On the plus side, my mom gave me Vicodine.

Comment by Deimos | June 5, 2009 | Reply
My random update: I’m feeling cranky and attacked. 😦

My 5-year old recently had a birthday party at a local art studio. We had a limited # of people that we could accommodate and, frankly, a limited budget. We asked our daughter who she wanted to invite and she named kids from her preschool. We had a limit of 10 kids we could invite. We actually invited 10 kids out of 14 in the class, gambling that we’d get some “nos”. The invites were put in parent mailboxes, not handed out at school. The party was held on a Saturday, so not during school hours. 8 were able to attend.

So we had a fabulous time. Only to find in our parent mailbox this Wed. a letter from her class’s teachers – to ALL of the parents in the class – saying that birthday parties really shouldn’t be exclusionary events, and that certain kids are being left out and how important inclusion is to kids at this age and, I quote: “Please ask yourself how you would feel if your child was not invited.”

Gee, I wonder who they’re talking about??? And, just to make SURE everyone knew who was being shamed, the letter named some of the details of birthday party that kids were talking about: and yup, they were some of the things we had at our party (and a few from another recent party). So basically, they did all but say: “Mr. and Mrs. SeaKat and that other parent are mean, mean meanies who like to make little kids cry.”

Are YOU KIDDING ME??

This is a private social event held off of center grounds and outside of center hours. In what FUCKING world do they have a right to tell me who I should invite to my kids’ party??

And- the best part?? The kid whose parents complained about their child feeling left out? Yeah. SeaCannibal has never been invited to her birthday party. Ever. In the 2 years they’ve been in classes together.

These kids are going to kindergarten in 3 months. Do they seriously for a fucking second believe that parents are going to invite 28 kids to every birthday party? Or worse- have to GO to 28 kids parties?? I’ll hang myself from a pinata string first!

I just think it’s ridiculous. What’s next? No playdates unless you arrange them with everyone?? Life is tough. Not everybody gets invited to everything. Santa doesn’t bring the same amount to everyone. (If he comes at all.) I didn’t go to prom because my parents couldn’t afford a dress. Everyone gets left out of something. As a parent, it’s your job to teach your kids how to handle disappointment. And the answer ISN’T “go bitch to someone about how victimized you are”.

ARrrrrrgh!

Comment by SeaKat | June 5, 2009 | Reply
That sucks big time Seakat. I will spread my germs to that asshole teacher. Those parents need to dislodge the stick from their ass ASAP.

Comment by Deimos | June 5, 2009 | Reply
Thanks for the validation!!!

I’m a nice person, dammit!! Now pass me that brick. I gotta meet some people at an Applebee’s. 🙂

I’m sorry you’re feeling crappy. Sinus infections are the worst (if that’s what you have – it kind of sounds like one).

Comment by SeaKat | June 5, 2009 | Reply
Deimos: Sinus infections suck. I have heard that nettie pots help, and I have heard you should avoid them at all costs. They sound gross so I avoid them. I do recommend hot steamy baths though, unless you’re male and planning on having kids because apparently hot baths reduce sperm count.

I am not drunk. I’m just really sleep deprived from most of this week.

SeaKat–I stopped teaching at a private school when they told me I couldn’t give any of the kids anything below a C since I was teaching an elective. Even if they never handed anything in…

I tend to dislike private school parents in brick-them-on-sight sort of way.

BFM: I had a tivo for years and now I have a new box that records two shows at once! I no longer have to decide between over the top girl medical drama and hot cheesy boy vampire slayer action…makes me so happy.

STM: I LOVE SYTYCD! I cannot wait for the actual dancing to begin. But do you ever get annoyed that they seem to only focus on some of the participants? Like the rest of them are only there because someone has to be eliminated the first three weeks while we all decide who we actually like…

Lava: I’m looking for a good salt/sugar scrub. Any good recommendations?

WhoMee: yes, yes they do. Want a good face-brick? We can shiny one up for you.

And finally: Chelsea and Mr Chelsea sitting in a tree…F U C K I N G. First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes the dental work that comes after that beer bottle in the teeth goes horribly wrong… 😉 Fortunately, he’s already agreed to love you even if you don’t have any teeth. And CONGRATS!! Glad you had a great time! 🙂

Did I miss anyone?

My update is I’m at home on a Friday night because I was out every other night this week and damnit, I’m tired. And my cats missed me. And I really missed my DVR. I’m so lame.

Comment by TheHobo | June 5, 2009 | Reply
I have insomnia at the moment…due to work stress and other stress. Hopefully, I can fall back asleep soon.

Hobo – I stayed home Friday night too…with my cat. I’m always beat at the end of a work week.

Seakat – You totally did nothing wrong. The first lesson people need to learn in life is that it’s not fair. My friend, who’s an elementary school teacher, has a colleague who tells her students that they are not princesses and princes even though their parents tell them they are. I suggest you complain to the principal about the letter and want an apology from your child’s teacher since you are paying for private school; and thus, are a client. The teacher had no right to send that letter out admonishing you.

Deimos – hope you feel better soon 🙂

Chelsea – Congrats!

lava + stm – I love SYTYCD too! Although, I haven’t been watching all the episodes this season. Every year that I watch, I promise myself that I’m going to take dance classes and then I break that promise.

bfm – i envy you and your pvr.

Comment by randoUm | June 6, 2009 | Reply
Chels, I’m so glad you’re still blissed-out from the honeymooon. Hope the bliss lingers long-time. 🙂

Deimos, I too have heard good things about netty (nettie??) pots. With salt water. But it IS kind of a gross thought. Good luck!

RumoUr, WhoMeee, sorry about the work/client stress. Hope it gets better soon.

BFM – I wish I had a dvr. Me=Jellis. Of course, I don’t have an iPod and we still watch some movies on our VCR. So we’re kind of Luddites. (Actually, we’re cheap bastards. But if I say “Luddite”, it makes it sound like there’s some philosophical basis and not just cheap bastardom!)

lava, I used to work at Bath & Body Works (about 10 years ago) and I built up a stock pile that I’ve only now begun to exhaust. I think it’s time for a Lush visit. 🙂

Thanks, all, for the support. I’ve come down off of the rage ledge. Last night there was an auction to support the center, so I had to interact with the teachers and the director who approved the letter. Guess who’s parents didn’t bother to show?? Hence, my extra dollop of defensiveness and anger. 😛

My husband already sent a note to the director expressing our dismay at the way the letter was written. I don’t have a problem w/them letting all the parents know that some kids are feeling excluded. I have a problem w/them issuing a letter that essentially says parents have to invite every kid to a private social event or risk public shaming.

After the party, we’ve since learned that the particular child in question is consistently being left out of the kid’s conversations about wanting to play at each other’s houses, and other things that various kids have done together outside of the center, like parties and dance classes, etc. So I feel for that little girl, I truly do. It really hurts to be excluded at that age-esp. for girls who seem to be more sensitive to social interaction at this age, based solely on my personal observations.

Her parents fucked up royally. Instead of crying to the school, I think they should have reached out to the parents of some of the other girls at the school. Any one of us would have been happy to arrange to meet them at a playground some weekend or have them to our house for a playdate. But that mom can’t even bother to say “hello” when I’ve said “hi” at drop-off or pick-up, so I suppose it’s no surprise that she wasn’t capable of figuring out the best way to navigate a tricky social issue w/her child. It’s just too bad that her kid is suffering for her mother’s social dysfunction. 😦

Comment by SeaKat | June 6, 2009 | Reply
Sorry Seakat for the dumb letter you had to get. while I think kids do feel bad about that stuff when they hear the other kids talking, I also think they get over it pretty frickin’ fast too. 5 year olds just don’t get that stuff yet. More than likely it is the PARENTS who’s Widdle Feewings were hurt. Oh poor babies!! I am SOOOO glad (so far, I have two more kids who will potentially someday be 5), I don’t have THAT kid. You know the one that is annoying and who no one wants to invite to parties. Anyway, I hate that kind of stupid stuff.

Plus Seakat, I too worked at BBW – 10ish years ago. I had to quit because every dollar I had went back to the store. I was basically working for free/next to nothing. But I smelled good. Lava – pls share your favorites!! I need to graduate to some new stuff!!

I think I would love SYTYCD. When is it on. I need deets!!
I miss coming here!

Comment by payter | June 6, 2009 | Reply
first of all, seakat — what they said. i totally agree with how you feel about this and i cannot believe people are being so petty and trying to pin it on you that they can’t see beyond their own circumstances.

second, i do not own a DVR or a TiVo…i’m living on a friend’s couch at the moment and she has a DVR. also, i don’t own an iPod while we’re at it – i borrow my mom’s.

third, i just watched the sex and the city movie, and i found it kind of sad. like reading Glamour or something and then you remember your own life will never be like that because it’s total fiction.

fourth, since i’m on a roll – i think my ex boyfriend’s parents were out to get me when they named him. his name is one of those words that pops up in every day conversation and nobody notices but it is like being whacked in the head with a brick, and that’s shitty.

Comment by baby fish mouth | June 6, 2009 | Reply
Ooh, bfm. I’m sorry. That sucks about the ex. I feel a little sick in the stomach out of empathy — I’ve been there. 😦

Comment by SeaKat | June 6, 2009 | Reply
Oh bfm, I’m so sorry! That’s a terrible feeling, especially when no one knows it’s happening.

SeaKat–Reee-diculous. I grew up without a lot of money and we always had to exclude kids from our parties. And luckily, my sister and I were judgmental as all get out, so we wanted to exclude anyway. We just had justification. I think instead of the meeting, you should have fired back your own passive-aggressive note, about how not all parents are able to afford large scale parties, and how you feel persecuted for being called out, etc. etc. And then if they return fire…well, it’s fodder for passiveaggressivenotes.com Enjoy.

Comment by Chelsea - PETA Protector | June 6, 2009 | Reply
Deimos, I swear by neti pot. There is nothing dangerous about it. It may seem gross, but all that’s happening is that you’re clearing out your nasal passages of mucus – the same stuff you would normally get from blowing your nose. It’s more effective than blowing your nose because it’s more gentle and uses slightly salty, warm water, which soothes inflamed tissue. You’ll get more mucus out and you’ll very likely feel like your entire face is back to normal if you persist with this. The process is pretty much the same thing as cleaning out a wound. I’ve actually prevented a major sinus infection from even occurring by doing this. For more details and very clear info: http://www.jalanetipot.com.

bfm, what is your ex’s name?

Comment by WhoMee | June 6, 2009 | Reply
LOL. You are hilarious, Chelsea. I LURVE that idea!!!!

I may have to send that note to that site. Yes. I really think I might. 🙂

I’m kind of past the whole thing now –thanks to all of you validating that I’m not a horrible human being for not inviting the whole class!!

I can’t hold grudges very long. Like a campfire made of newspaper, my temper burns hot but exhausts itself pretty quickly.

Comment by SeaKat | June 6, 2009 | Reply
As long as there’s enough anger/fuel to rant and rave to us here, you can feel free to calm down quickly.

Comment by Chelsea - PETA Protector | June 6, 2009 | Reply
he knows i post on here but whatever, he never would visit the site when we were dating even when i asked him to, so i doubt he’s doing it now, unless he’s completely nuts and only decided he missed me after i left, and is stalking me. which would be kind of nice in a really sick way, but alas. his name is major. i blame his parents because i can’t blame posh spice for making it more popular.

thanks for your support, peeps.

Comment by baby fish mouth | June 6, 2009 | Reply
Awwww, shit, bfm. I know I’ve dropped that bomb on you recently. I’m sorry. That word shall henceforth be stricken from my online vocabulary.

Also, let us know when you’ve reached the healing point where you’re ready for your friends to mock him mercilessly. All I know about him is that he’s dumb enough to lose you and he’s named “Major.” Yeah, I think I’ve got material for a good week or so.

Comment by SeaKat | June 6, 2009 | Reply
🙂 thanks seakat!!

Comment by baby fish mouth | June 6, 2009 | Reply
SeaKat: I’m a little late to the discussion, and I know you said you’re over it but I thought I’d throw in my two cents worth. I really think those parents are doing their kid an injustice. If she’s not being invited places, doesn’t have a lot of friends, the way to remedy the situation is certainly not by guilting people into having her over and calling attention to it. I assume these are young children…what kind of complex is that going to give her when she’s older? They should have taken a more pro-active approach and invited some kids to play with her, or signed her up in a group activity…something where she can forge her own friendships, not have her parents “arrange” them for her out of other people’s sympathy!

I’m glad you’re over it because you didn’t do anything except expose your child (and inadvertently the other one) to reality! I work with teenagers and I’ve seen the results of this delusional parenting so often…I think the problem is people sometimes lack social skills, and don’t know how to handle the fact that their kids are individuals who will have to learn to fight their own battles!

Last week, for example, this situation played out under my nose: High school girl and high school guy break up. Girl thought Guy was getting too serious, she missed her friends and he didn’t like her spending time with other people. Guy flipped out. Missed classes, followed girl around, incessant texts. When that (and threats) didn’t work, Guy got his mom to call Girl & corner her after school, demanding an explanation for her son. When Girl was shaken and upset, but didn’t give in, Guy’s mom called Girls parents to demand a sit-down meeting and figure out the situation. These kids are 15!!!

Comment by karisitah | June 7, 2009 | Reply
that seriously happened karistah??? Really! Holy Crap! Doesn’t that mom know every teen needs to be a dumper/dumpee at least once in their life to understand relationships??? IMO at least…. What a weenie.

BFM – I am sorry for the constant bricking with your ex’s name. That really sucks and that was the part of dating I hated. The getting over it stuff.
I hope he is stalking you. I always wanted a stalker…secretly…

Comment by payter | June 7, 2009 | Reply
OMG, karistah, that’s inSANE. There’s nothing like a parent of a monster who is convinced that their kid is absolutely perfect and that it’s everyone ELSE who has the problem. I feel for that girl – what a horrible situation. And, God, I feel for whomever that boy ends up marrying. That over-involved mom is going to be a nightmare m-i-l!!!

Thanks for the kind words. I do feel a little guilty for not inviting every kid. I was a little worried that we were off-base on our decision that it wasn’t necessary, so it’s nice to hear that other people don’t assume that nice person would *of course* find a way to accommodate every child.

Honestly, I also feel like the center and the parents are missing the real issue:

The problem isn’t that their kid isn’t being invited by parents to bday parties. That’s a symptom. The root problem is that their kid is (I’ve since learned) being systematically excluded by the other girls in almost every activity. My kid isn’t the ringleader, but she is a follower in this. Now that I KNOW about the issue, we are talking with her at home about the situation and encouraging her to step up and try to include this girl. I only learned this from another mother at a playdate yesterday. The teachers missed an opportunity to help fix this main issue, but instead chose to focus on a result. It’s like treating a fever but ignoring the infection causing it. That might help in the short term, but it sure won’t make the patient healthy.

Meh. I wish I could say “SeaCannibal goes to kindergarten in 3 months” and just blow the whole thing off. Unfortunately the SeaKitten will still be there so we’ll be dealing with this center for another 4 years. I’d move the little one, but the center does, overall, a fabulous job helping to prepare the kids socially and academically for elementary school. I just wish that certain teachers had parental-interaction skills that equalled their child-interaction skills! But, of the two, I’d rather have teachers that excel w/kids, which is what we have.

Comment by SeaKat | June 7, 2009 | Reply
No joke, that happened to one of my students. In the two years I’ve been teaching high school I’ve seen and heard so many insane things that I’m convinced I could write a best seller based purely on anecdotes.

I hear way too much from students because I’m one of the youngest teachers at the school. In some ways I can relate to them and be sympathetic, but in other ways I don’t want to get involved in some of their fucked-up situations. They feel comfortable telling me things that I’m not always comfortable with hearing…and it’s really starting to make me neurotic, jaded and bitter. I’m too young for jaded and bitter. I’m going to have worry lines and wrinkles before I’m old enough for them to look distinguished.

Comment by karisitah | June 7, 2009 | Reply
As a tutor, I’d hear all kinds of fucked up shit about my students’–oddly, some of them thought of me more as a therapist, or so it seemed (and you do sort of have to play that role…for example, I had a student completely break down over not getting pi…which had nothing to do with math, so I had to help him deal with his emotions before continuing the lesson). Also, I tutor the wealthy, and I think the only other people they spend one-one time with are their therapists…

I was a mentor for a while too, and I always felt a little helpless. Like, what I really wanted to do was just take my little sister (big bros big sisters program) out of her life, and the best I could do was take her to a movie or go shopping.

Meanwhile, BFM: a friend of mine recently had her bf break up with her and we spent most of Sat watching the BBC version of Pride and Prejudice and I suddenly realized how much of an ass Mr Darcy is in the first half of the series, and how that whole thing probably messes women up, because eventually he is won over and changes Um, no. This is the problem…every movie, book, story we’ve seen where asshole-ish men suddenly realize the woman they are with and have been abusing are worth them undergoing dramatic and instantaneous changes…doesn’t happen in real life.

Which is sad. Because you feel like walking away from a guy would make him get, eventually, how much of an ass he really is and how much his assholery just cost him. But nope. They kind of go on being asses.

Or start dating someone new and treat her way better than he ever treated you, because SHE is the one who treats him like shit.

I hate dating.

But Colin Firth in the wet shirt scene was kinda worth putting up with Mr Darcy’s assholery.

And this is the problem…I could swear off men if they didn’t look so great in wet shirts. Or shirtless. Sigh.

Sorry BFM. *hugs*

We can put Major on our bricking list.

Comment by TheHobo | June 7, 2009 | Reply
Hobo, Karistah, you guys scare me for my kids’ future teen years!

Yeah, Mr. Darcy has some ‘splainin to do. Preferably in the rain. In a linen shirt…

Comment by SeaKat | June 8, 2009 | Reply
SeaKat: Never fear. There are lots of awesome, amazing, mature and intelligent teenagers out there who are going to be amazing grown-ups some day. It’s just that the other ones require a good venting session every now and again.

As far as I can see (and I may not necessarily be qualified to judge because I’m not a parent) a lot of the influence has to do with parenting, and the extremes are what cause problems. For example, the never present parent who couldn’t care less, basically forcing the kids to have way too much freedom that requires them to grow up too fast and hardens them (basically a parent that acts like a teenager) or the helicopter parent who refuses to let his or her children think for themselves–the fussy, hovering, elevated-sense-of-entitlement parent who thinks that disappointment is an unnecessary step that their precious munchkin should never be burdened with, and refuse to acknowledge that other children are equally as important, talented or worthwhile as their own.

I don’t get the impression that you fall into either of those categories. 🙂 I know that it’s not only parenting that influences kids…there are many, many other influences on a teen. However, it’s the parents that lay the foundation and give coping skills. Most will rebel at some point, even the really great ones, but if they’ve had a solid foundation from their guardians they’ll be much more capable of rebounding and making wrongs right. IMO.

Sometimes there is a situation wherein you get a crazy kid with perfectly lovely parents…that’s a whole other issue. I’m just talking generally.

Comment by karisitah | June 8, 2009 | Reply
Hobo that’s so true. I can’t add anything.

Comment by baby fish mouth | June 8, 2009 | Reply
SeaKat, you are an awesome mom. Wanna know why? It’s because you are taking the time and energy to teach your child how to be a good human being, and that is priceless. The SeaKitten and SeaCannibal are lucky to have you.

BFM, I feel your pain on the ex. My ex’s name was Jay, short for Jason – so wherever I go, I am running into someone with his name (to make matters worse, my roommate’s name is Jason). But apparently, your ex is a Major Asshole because he can’t see what all of us Squee!ers see – which is that you are a great big bouquet of awesomeness tied with a ribbon of wit and snark, and that makes you just about the coolest chick ever. So fuck him, and the horse he rode in on.

Comment by Helen Skor | June 8, 2009 | Reply
Thanks, guys. And Helen, sooooo “what you said” to the bfm description. It could also apply to you.

So now I have 2 guys on my “too dumb to breathe” list.

Comment by SeaKat | June 8, 2009 | Reply
geez where have i been? so i have nothing helpful to add to the crazy kids debacle, i’m unable to grasp my child actually being that old (which is in, like, 2 years, but still).

but as for my fave body stuff, that i can do! sar turned me onto Lush, and their “dream cream” is AMAZING. it’s like putting homemade whipped cream on your skin, but you know, like, in a good way. i’m also obsessed with almost everything bathandbodyworks or thebodyshop makes… my fave body wash though has to be the philosophy ones that smell so good you could eat them. i’ve only tried one so far because they’re wicked expensive, but the senorita margarita was delish! if i can’t have a drink i’ll wear one darn it. thehobo i haven’t tried any scrubs yet, mostly because i’m afraid to get addicted to anything else since i’m all broke and what not.

Comment by lava | June 8, 2009 | Reply
Lava: SOOO broke.

I can haz a third income now?

or better yet, I can haz a job that actually believes in raises?

Comment by TheHobo | June 8, 2009 | Reply